Mei Yiqi is the longest principal of Tsinghua University, and Tsinghua people respect him as "eternal principal". After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War in 1937, the three universities of Peking University, Tsinghua University, and Nankai moved south to Kunming to form Southwest United University. At that time, the chairman of the Yunnan Provincial Government was Long Yun. He gave great support to the Southwest United University in terms of human resources, property, and so on. Long Yun's child was enrolled in the middle school attached to the UN General Assembly at the time, but he didn't pass the exam. He wanted to find Mei Yiqi to walk through the back door, let Mei Yiqi take care of him and admit him. One day, he specially visited Mei Yiqi and asked Mei Yiqi to take care of his children. Mei Yiqi did not immediately express his position, but left Long Yun to eat at home, and invited Pan Guangdan, the dean of the UN General Assembly, to accompany him. At the banquet, Mei Yiqi asked Pan Guangdan to send a teacher to tutor homework for Chairman Long’s children in the evening, so that the children would take the exam next year, and stated that the teacher’s tuition fee was paid by Long Yun. When Long Yun saw that Mei Yiqi insisted on the principle, it was not easy to say anything, and he readily agreed.
What is principle? Principle is a person's original intention, and is the standard and bottom line for a person to do things. What is humanity? Everyone is a member of the general social environment, and no one exists independently. It is always inevitable that there will be some intersection with others. When one comes and goes, there will be human interaction. Due to the school's relocation, Mei Yiqi and Long Yun had a deal, but he could not be flattered, adhere to the principle of doing things according to rules, not giving favors, and at the same time being able to think about each other's position. This is both respectful and humane.
The principles and human relations in communication seem to some people to be a contradiction. But a person with true communicative wisdom is both humanistic and principle-oriented. Progressive, can maintain a healthy interpersonal relationship; retreat, can maintain their original heart. Er Yuehe is such a person, so grasping the degree of interaction with others, perfectly integrating principle and human touch, Er Yuehe's way of communication is commendable.
In interpersonal communication, don't cross the wall of inner principles at will because of face and human relations. Only by talking about principles in human relationships and knowing how to use principles to reject others can we make life simple and easy, and we can truly get rid of human relationships. The famous debater Huang Zhizhong said: "A person is worthless, see his principles are worthless." Please always maintain the principles, what kind of principles you have, you will achieve what kind of life. A principled life is the happiest life.
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